We strive for our horses to follow a feel and to react on the smallest cues. We go for lightness. I try to be as soft as possible with my hands. Sometimes, though, I found that a firmer grasp is the better choice: I actually got so light with my fingertips that my horse felt tickled. He flinched and treated my fingers as he would a fly. That told me that my touch was too light, too subtle. I think it is a challenge to deliver a clear feel in a soft touch without getting too firm or to feeble.